You Only Fall in Love Three Times: The Secret Search for Our Twin Flame
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But now, you know yourself better than ever, and most importantly, you know deep in your soul that you want to spend the rest of your life with this truly special person. This was an interesting read. I'm not sure what the author's credibility is to have the science about "love" but it was a cool read. That wasn't really shared in the book. She said many times that she had clients, but is she a psychologist? counselor? life coach?
p. 101 It's natural to be afraid of ending up alone, whether it's just the idea of being alone or a more specific image of what it would mean for our self-worth if no one claimed us as theirs. We must be so comfortable with ourselves that we do not strive to be with someone just out of loneliness or fear." The Soulmate introduces us to the dream of love, but somehow what seemed like it would be "happily ever after" wasn't meant to last forever. I don't have anything against loving ourselves. Of course, leaving some love for ourselves is very important for a balance love. But at the end, she's summarized that if you are not currently with your "twin flame" or you've decided to walk away from that that it's ok because you only truly need yourself and not another's love. In some degree that can be true, especially if the love you are gravitating towards to is toxic. However, let's not lead females to think that they will be fine without a man in their life. There's plenty of research/data that shows that couples that are married are happier people than those that are single. Why push the "love yourself more" theme, when it is proven that no man's an island? Well, the first one all begins when we’re young. It’s called the “idealistic love”. It’s kind of like a fairy tale. We believe we’re doing it for our family and society. It’s true. Philosophers and mystics have raved on for centuries about why we need 3 different lovers. Each one serves a different purpose and there’s no guarantee that all of us will make it to number three.
A glimpse into this book in my own words: We don't always learn the necessary lessons that our relationships are trying to teach us and so we may experience the same type of love multiple times, usually the karmic love. Our karmic love, she explains, is supposed to break us to make room for our last love. It's the one that teaches us, should we allow ourselves to see it, what true real love is all about. It's the one out of the three types that is the most tumultuous. And so our karmic love is not supposed to last, it's supposed to help make us accountable for our actions, and face our feelings. She has also built a private international coaching practice specializing in relationships and women's empowerment along with leading retreats around the globe. Kate lives in the Hidden Hills of Massachusetts with her daughters; Emma, 13, Abigail, 9 and seizes as many chances as she can to learn through love. Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” – Robert A. Heinlein Many people get married without experiencing the electrifying feelings of being in love. Several people, likely including you, have been in a relationship without feeling deeply in love with their partner. That is to say that not all your past relationships are borne out of falling in love. Amazing, if you have not already, you would truly fall in love only three times in your lifetime. Falling In Love The First Time Recall that Kate Rose related these three types of love experiences to the development of our ideology about love. Each love has a specific reason, lesson, or significance in our love life.
This time, it was not about what society thinks or the general assumptions about love. You wanted to do things differently by compromising your standards and expectations, amongst others, just to make it work. 3. The Twin Flame This time around, we tend to believe we are making better or different decisions in contrast to our first one. However, our choices are most often still influenced by the need to ‘hang on’ to this love we wished was the right for us. It can, inevitably, become an even vicious cycle we repeat, as we are convinced we would have a different, better result each time. You have been in several relationships, each ending in a fatal breakup but here I am telling you that you only fall in love three times in your lifetime. Am I the only one who thinks something is off about the statement? It is therefore not compulsory to take through the three steps before love finds you. It depends on what you know. But whereas the first two love feels amazing in their own regards, the third love is unmatched in all ramifications. It is the love we never see coming, the same love that actually lasts. ConclusionNo explanations needed and no dramatization: it is welcoming, caring and unapologetically true. It’s the love that just feels right.